I finally got the opportunity to role play against Bro Adams and I think I pitted well. "I don't know, what would you do?" It was good to be able to use some things that I learned from the mission.
We learned more on the things we should do for empathic listening. We saw a clip from Father of the Bride.
I think the highlight today was when Bro Adams brought up a good real world scenarios. The scenario was if you are an intern at Time Magazine and they are going to be holding a meeting at a club, what would you do? To me, it is a simple people relations scenario. Go with the company because you need to be there BUT just DON'T DRINK! People will respect you for that. Besides they know you are from BYU-I. I do not see the point where confined Mormons needs to get all antsy in these situations. Maybe I grew up as a non-member and the only member in my family in Baltimore-DC corridor and that is different from UT/ID. Also the boss is trying to be as understanding as possible. No pressure at all to drink.
Let's just be people and respect each other. There is a real world outside of the Mormon bubble where we will be working/living in. The only difference is, you have to know where to draw the line. If you cannot live and understand the culture outside the Church, stay in Utah.
*this is not targeted to anyone in particular. This part of my frustration with some here on this campus that complains a lot concerning these types of issues (and also after serving in SLC).
Tuesday, February 27, 2007
Sunday, February 25, 2007
2.23.07
Today's class was great. Kicked off with some 80s clip action. Examples like those are good.
Then we jumped right in to the role plays. The more we do the role plays the more I think I am becoming a better listener. I have been doing a lot of listening with the girls and buddies. They are all responding well. I have been applying these skills in my interpersonal relationships. It is tempting to give off your 2 cents but people seem to enjoy talking to me more when I just listen.
This is a great point given today: We do not know where people are coming from. I am doing a bit better on this skill and not jumping the gun too much.
I think I can take on the role play. All we did in the mission was role play. In all of the UT missions, we were the ones that pioneered and really used this teaching skill. Thanks President!
2.21.07
Role played. I was hoping he would have called on me. We are chugging along.
Then we jumped right in to the role plays. The more we do the role plays the more I think I am becoming a better listener. I have been doing a lot of listening with the girls and buddies. They are all responding well. I have been applying these skills in my interpersonal relationships. It is tempting to give off your 2 cents but people seem to enjoy talking to me more when I just listen.
This is a great point given today: We do not know where people are coming from. I am doing a bit better on this skill and not jumping the gun too much.
I think I can take on the role play. All we did in the mission was role play. In all of the UT missions, we were the ones that pioneered and really used this teaching skill. Thanks President!
2.21.07
Role played. I was hoping he would have called on me. We are chugging along.
Sunday, February 18, 2007
2.16.07
Funny how all the guys were in class and most of the girls are gone for the weekend. Chill day. Cleaned my car before class (1.5 hour free inbetween classes). Now I can eat off my car. I love it more than girls.
I really liked today's class because it is something that is really true. Bro Adams talked about S Curves and its importance. To sum it up, it is:
"If you keep doing what you are doing, you are going to slow down. You have to make a change."
This principle holds ture to anything we do that concerns progression. When we do not jump from the S Curve, we are going to plateau. From the weight room to eternal progression, we need to always make changes so we can grow. It holds true too that maybe this is the reason why we are tried.
The model for the S Curve for guys was nice to see. I can clearly see myself following those paths. Everytime I jumped, I gained more experience. I feel like I am going up. Change is hard but very beneficial. It is comforting to know that change is a big tool for learning.
I really liked today's class because it is something that is really true. Bro Adams talked about S Curves and its importance. To sum it up, it is:
"If you keep doing what you are doing, you are going to slow down. You have to make a change."
This principle holds ture to anything we do that concerns progression. When we do not jump from the S Curve, we are going to plateau. From the weight room to eternal progression, we need to always make changes so we can grow. It holds true too that maybe this is the reason why we are tried.
The model for the S Curve for guys was nice to see. I can clearly see myself following those paths. Everytime I jumped, I gained more experience. I feel like I am going up. Change is hard but very beneficial. It is comforting to know that change is a big tool for learning.
2.14.07
Valentine's Day
We got a sweet surprise kicked off by Rachel and Elle (VDay cards for everyone). That was nice! Thanks! The class was good. Learned to not take other people's monkeys. Let them deal with those. Our part is to just be there and be an ear.
Then Bro Adams discussed the 5 different levels of maturity (dependences). That was really good and informative.
We got a sweet surprise kicked off by Rachel and Elle (VDay cards for everyone). That was nice! Thanks! The class was good. Learned to not take other people's monkeys. Let them deal with those. Our part is to just be there and be an ear.
Then Bro Adams discussed the 5 different levels of maturity (dependences). That was really good and informative.
Monday, February 12, 2007
2.12.07
Today was a good day in class.
Kicked off with some Dances with Wolves action. The talking stick is the way to go if you want a lesser conflict in group decision-making. After that, we actually had role plays that supported this theory.
I loved the role plays today because everyone was involved, and we were all doing what was preached. It was amusing watching Rachel and Dani go at it with the neighbor/dog role play. Girls can be feisty but also conflicts can turn into one blaming/accusation fest without any clear solutions. Me and Dani role played the clogging scenario. We were quick to find a solution since we were just chill about it AND we decided on a compromise.
Good class.
Kicked off with some Dances with Wolves action. The talking stick is the way to go if you want a lesser conflict in group decision-making. After that, we actually had role plays that supported this theory.
I loved the role plays today because everyone was involved, and we were all doing what was preached. It was amusing watching Rachel and Dani go at it with the neighbor/dog role play. Girls can be feisty but also conflicts can turn into one blaming/accusation fest without any clear solutions. Me and Dani role played the clogging scenario. We were quick to find a solution since we were just chill about it AND we decided on a compromise.
Good class.
2.9.07
It was interesting to start off with some aikido action. DJ had a good form.
It was good to relate this with discipline when we are listening to others. It takes a lot of patience to be a good listener.
The role play on empathic listening and breaking up with Katelyn was good. Good empathic listening model in a situation where you may encounter it a lot (college town).
Unexpressed feelings never dies. Gotta stop trying to defend yourself. Let it out. Don't let it fester.
It was good to relate this with discipline when we are listening to others. It takes a lot of patience to be a good listener.
The role play on empathic listening and breaking up with Katelyn was good. Good empathic listening model in a situation where you may encounter it a lot (college town).
Unexpressed feelings never dies. Gotta stop trying to defend yourself. Let it out. Don't let it fester.
2.8.07
Class was good. Covered generalities and more roleplays on empathic listening.
On the topic of generalities, I think it will always be part of human nature. We are ignorant concerning many things. Education/Experience is the only way to combat this. Being in a small Idaho town (and coming from the Baltimore-Washington DC area), generalities are magnified 50% for me (to add to that, I am Filipino). Empathetic listening all the way.
On the topic of generalities, I think it will always be part of human nature. We are ignorant concerning many things. Education/Experience is the only way to combat this. Being in a small Idaho town (and coming from the Baltimore-Washington DC area), generalities are magnified 50% for me (to add to that, I am Filipino). Empathetic listening all the way.
Tuesday, February 6, 2007
Friday, February 2, 2007
Googled Article on Empathic Listening
http://www.psychological-hug.com/
This is actually a 19 page-long article on empathic listening. It is really interesting, and in a tone that does not sound like a psychology book.
The article pretty much talks about the pros of empathic listening. He also included examples--which is helpful (such as being empathic about his wife's grocery shopping adventures, etc).
He also gave the risks of empathic listening (the person feeling awkward towards you after telling you EVERYTHING, we lose our train of thought because we're busy paying attention to the other person, etc). Within the article, he compared sympathy and empathy. This part was really interesting. Sympathy invokes scenes of "Aw I feel sorry for you...". With empathy, we just shut our mouths and listen.
The author closes it by stating that empathic listening is like a big "psychological hug".
Overall, this was a very good article. It is a very good read.
This is actually a 19 page-long article on empathic listening. It is really interesting, and in a tone that does not sound like a psychology book.
The article pretty much talks about the pros of empathic listening. He also included examples--which is helpful (such as being empathic about his wife's grocery shopping adventures, etc).
He also gave the risks of empathic listening (the person feeling awkward towards you after telling you EVERYTHING, we lose our train of thought because we're busy paying attention to the other person, etc). Within the article, he compared sympathy and empathy. This part was really interesting. Sympathy invokes scenes of "Aw I feel sorry for you...". With empathy, we just shut our mouths and listen.
The author closes it by stating that empathic listening is like a big "psychological hug".
Overall, this was a very good article. It is a very good read.
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